DEALING WITH NEGATIVE HATEFUL PEOPLE - ESPECIALLY FAMILY

 

WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS NEED TO GO!

Last year I decided that a family member was just too toxic, honestly, this person is NOT a nice person, in my opinion - plus I cut back on my interactions with few of my siblings and a few friends.

What brought me to this decision?  I reflected on my growth in “life” the past few years. The cruelty, mean spiritedness of my “family” was just downright hateful.   Oh yeah, my family LOVES to trash certain members of the family, I believe it gives them pleasure! – HOW AWFUL!

Why did I allow myself to put up with their negative verbal assaults and negative commentary of me for so long? Not sure?  I finally confronted a family member; wow was she defensive.  It felt so good to say, "you can't talk about me that way, you lied".

I feel no need to rehash their ugliness. I am in a good place – forgiveness given; forgiveness does not mean you are open to continual abuse and continual negative commentary spoken about you!  This is important for those who are and have been verbally abused to understand.

I am posting this because I feel that someone, somewhere needs to know they are valued, important and worthy, sure we make mistakes – but NO ONE needs to have their own siblings and friends continue to lie about us and say negative things!

In my case I have always been an independent person, not agreeing with my family and what “they” say or “think” makes you an enemy! This behavior came from a place of their parental upbringing – I was fortunate in my early teens - I met a lovely Christian family that gave me hope, guidance and love - the cycle was broke with me.

      Never underestimate the power of a kind word  

                                                                                          It can heal the deepest wounds! 🩷